Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Rampant bisexual discrimination; will it ever get better for us?

Airman 1st Class Trent Smith (Courtesy photo)

Eight months after accusing a co-worker of sexual assault, Airman 1st Class Trent Smith was diagnosed with a personality disorder and sent before a medical discharge board.
The Air Force psychologist he had gone to for help dealing with anxiety and depression in the aftermath of the alleged assault described Smith in medical records as “odd, peculiar, paranoid and extremely guarded.”
“Recommend immediate processing of separation from the military,” the psychologist concluded in May after five months of treatment.
Smith, a security forces member, said he believes he is being forced out of the Air Force for reporting the alleged assault and for his sexual orientation. He is bisexual.
Unable to carry a weapon, Smith can’t perform security forces duties, according to a memo from his commander, who recommended medical discharge. Smith has not been in the Air Force long enough to retrain to another career field.
Smith blames his psychological problems on the alleged assault. He intends to fight the discharge, now underway. He said the psychologist who treated him exaggerated an incident in which he made a comment about killing himself. Another psychologist disputed the personality disorder diagnosis. And the chaplain Smith currently works for said Smith “has what it takes to be a fine airman.”
“You’re cast down,” Smith said. “The doctors try to turn it around like you’re crazy. I want people to know this is how the military treats its people.”
Veterans groups, including Vietnam Veterans of America and Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America, have said the military unfairly uses personality disorders to discharge service members. Some say the diagnoses have been inappropriately used to discharge victims of sexual assault.
Personality and adjustment disorders are considered to have existed before troops joined the military, making them ineligible for disability compensation and mental health treatment.
The diagnosis appears on veterans’ discharge papers, making it harder to find employment.
Protect Our Defenders policy director Miranda Petersen said the diagnoses are also “very damaging and very hard to change. It undermines their credibility. It really becomes a barrier most survivors can’t get over on their own,” Petersen said.
In March, Rep. Tim Walz, D-Minn., introduced a bill that would require the review of discharges for personality and adjustment disorders.

Barred from doing job

Smith was 19 when he arrived at his first duty station at Vogelweh Air Base, Germany, in April 2012 as a security forces member.
He said a staff sergeant sexually assaulted him two months later. Smith made a restricted report to the base’s sexual assault response coordinator, which allowed him to get help dealing with the trauma without alerting the chain of command. In August the same year, he made an unrestricted report, which launched an investigation.
The staff sergeant was recommended for nonjudicial punishment for “having an unprofessional relationship,” according to a December memo from the 86th Airlift Wing. “Based upon my review of the case, I do not believe a sexual assault occurred and that the sexual acts … were consensual in nature,” the memo states.
The memo describes the staff sergeant as having “above average” duty performance but does not say how the decision was reached. The name of the sender is redacted from the memo obtained by Air Force Times.
In September 2012, six months after arriving at the base, Smith was barred from deploying or carrying a weapon, which left him unable to do his job. Smith said the restriction followed the investigation and a no-contact order between him and his alleged assailant.
Later that same month, Smith made a joke about killing himself after his shop at Vogelweh announced new shift hours, according to a medical record report from the 86th Medical Operations Squadron in Ramstein, Germany.
Smith said he spoke in jest. At least one of his co-workers was concerned enough to report the comment up the chain of command. When the command couldn’t reach Smith right away, his dorm room and computer were searched, which revealed Google searches for suicide hotlines and an article about overdosing on Nyquil, the medical record said.
Smith told his mental health provider at Ramstein he did not intend to harm himself. The incident seemed to raise no serious red flags for the provider, who wrote in Smith’s record that the airman first class had some symptoms of depression and anxiety, such as mild irritability, guilt and trouble concentrating but “no evidence of delusions … or bizarre behaviors.”
Smith “is not deemed an imminent threat to self or others,” the provider stated.
In November, Smith received a humanitarian transfer to Travis Air Force Base, Calif. “This removes him from the assailant and the situation that has caused him so much trouble,” the provider concluded in an October visit. “There is every possibility he will do much better once he has left Ramstein.”

More trouble, more transfers

At Travis, the weapon and deployment ban was lifted, Smith said, but reinstated weeks later when Smith sought mental health treatment there.
Smith said he was harassed by fellow security forces members because he couldn’t carry a weapon and because of his sexual orientation. When he was moved to another area on base, he said he was bullied for being a “snitch.”
He was moved again, this time to a non-security forces job at the base chapel. Smith told his psychologist he no longer wanted to be in security forces, a move she initially supported. But his request to retrain was denied because Smith did not have at least 35 months in service, a requirement for retraining.
At a therapy session in April, Smith said his provider gave him the results of her psychological testing: schizotypal personality disorder. Since he could not retrain or work in security forces, discharge was the only option, the provider wrote in the narrative.
The provider described Smith as “extremely guarded and difficult to work with interpersonally” and at times uncooperative in group therapy, refusing to contribute to discussions. Smith had also made multiple vague suicidal and homicidal ideations, including the incident at Volgelweh, she wrote.
The provider wrote that Smith at Vogelwehhad “reportedly pointed the gun to his head and said, ‘well, why don’t I just blow my head off.’ ”
Three days after the discharge recommendation, the Traviscommander ordered Smith to have no contact with the psychologist.
Both Smith and his former first sergeant submitted statements that contradicted the psychologist’s accounting of the Vogelweh incident, and Smith requested an impartial review of the provider’s summary.
The July review confirmed there was no evidence Smith had ever put a gun to his head. It also took issue with the diagnosis of schizotypal personality disorder but still concluded Smith was unfit for service.
“His pattern of behavior suggests some level of problematic coping,” according to the review. “In my opinion ... [it is] sufficient to support the diagnosis of personality disorder not otherwise specified.”
A May letter written by the wing chaplain Smith now works for, Col. Robert Cannon, offered another side to the now-20-year-old airman, describing him as focused, dedicated and professional. Since coming on board at the chapel, Smith had begun, of his own initiative, biweekly “resiliency luncheons” for his co-workers.
“ He embodies the Air Force’s core values,” the letter stated. “His personal character and creative enthusiasm will serve the Air Force well for years to come.”
For now, Smith is awaiting the next step in the medical discharge process, an informal physical evaluation board. If the discharge is approved at the informal level, Smith said he will appeal to the formal board, which would involve a hearing.
He continues to work at the chapel. “Given everything I have endured, I still desire to stay in the Air Force,” he said. ■

Rick Maze contributed.

This article was gleaned from the following website:

http://www.armytimes.com/article/20131007/CAREERS/310070008/ 

Monday, August 12, 2013

Mr. Putin, an open letter.

Mr. Putin,

    You have placed the Russian people into the dark ages. You single handedly robbed your citizens of the basic civil right to choose whom they love. You have jeopardized the safety and sanctity that the International Olympics offers to athletes around the world. You see Mr. Putin, The rest of the world is moving forward and accepting the diverse and eclectic community known as LGBTQ. Our community does not judge others for their choice in spouses, partners or companions. Our community is growing, prosperous, and self sufficient.

    In our country, the United States of America, we are making huge strides in the civil rights of our citizens. Sure, we have areas where we need improvement, but I wouldn't live anywhere else in the world. We have our share of wingnuts, homophobes, and racists but for the most part we are united in our efforts to improve the lives of all. We don't require our citizens to keep quiet. There is no "don't ask, don't tell" requirements. We are proud of who we are and we will shout it from your roof tops as we do ours. Your bully tactics and threats of arrest are reminiscent of a bygone era where the Soviet Bloc aligned itself with the likes of history's most despicable monsters.

    Mr. Putin, I ask you to re-think your stagnant non productive position on our LGBTQ community. If for no other reason, do it for the Olympics.

John & Laura Benedict
Southern Nevada Bisexuals

Saturday, August 10, 2013

A compelling story of love, a book review


Companions Nich’ooni by Jed A. Bryan is a compelling story of love, devotion, and self-preservation. The central characters are paired together by a traditional duty to their church. This pairing has little to do with compatibility and everything to do with whom and to where the Mormon Church chooses. They are interested in membership not relationships.

Set in 1968, a time when very few were brave enough to come out to their own families that they were gay, these Elders were thrust together to deal with their own fallibilities. Jed brings these characters to life. I could feel crisp clean mountain air stinging my lungs. I felt the dirt beneath my feet. The vivid details will put you deep within Navajo country.  I could sense the contempt these boys felt when their feelings betrayed their upbringing. Jed uses the Navajo language to punctuate the cultural differences between Geoffrey and Johnny.

Their tumultuous beginning melted into a caring, loving relationship. Geoffrey’s family never comes to grips with his outing, nor the apparent flamboyancy of his uncle Ho. Their untimely outing to the church seemed to spark their intent to show the world that they were out and quite content about it.  Unfortunately, the atmosphere in that day and age didn’t lend itself to diversity and tolerance. As with many in the LGBT community today, they were forced to flee for their own safety. Fortunately uncle Ho understood their needs and took them in.

This story was based on true events in the author’s life. I applaud Jed’s tenacity and his attention to details. I encourage you to curl up to your wood burning stove amid your Hogan and read this book. And finally, all of us can appreciate the need for our very own uncle Ho.
 
 
http://www.amazon.com/Companions-Nichooni-Jed-Bryan/dp/1300192038/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1376162548&sr=8-1&keywords=companions+nich%27ooni

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Can gays help save marriage?

 

The following story was gleaned from the Las Vegas Sun.
 
The main drivers of this transformation are obvious. Most Americans now know that people they care about are gay or lesbian, and empathy can do wonderful things. Partly because of this, younger Americans overwhelmingly favor same-sex marriage. They will dominate the electorates of the future.
But another factor deserves more notice: steadily increasing numbers of Americans have come to believe that gays and lesbians are not social revolutionaries looking to alter the nature of marriage. Rather, they are seen as simply wanting to be part of an institution that is already open to their straight fellow citizens. This shift in perspective has been essential in normalizing the idea of gay unions.
That finding comes our way courtesy of a series of surveys that have been conducted by Third Way, a policy organization close to moderate Democrats, and the Human Rights Campaign, one of the country’s leading gay rights groups. Overall, their latest poll found that 53 percent of Americans now favor “allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry legally,” while 40 percent are opposed.
The two organizations have been tracking this question: “Do you think gay couples who want to get married are trying to change the institution of marriage or join it?” In 2009, Americans were closely divided on this: 50 percent said gay couples wanted to join marriage, while 41 percent said these couples wanted to change it.
In the survey the groups will release this week as part of their aptly named “Commitment Campaign,” 58 percent said gays and lesbians wanted to join marriage and only 27 percent said they were looking to change it.
This suggests that an increasing number of Americans reject the culture-war frame when it comes to gay marriage and that fewer see it as threatening their own values.
The survey was also striking in showing that Americans make careful distinctions around the religious freedom questions raised by granting gays and lesbians access to marriage.
On the one hand, 61 percent of Americans say churches and clergy members should have the right to refuse to perform a marriage ceremony for a gay or lesbian couple. Only 28 percent said they should not. But when it came to nonreligious market transactions related to weddings — involving caterers, florists, restaurants and the like — respondents took a very different view. Substantial majorities said that providers of such services should not be able to withhold them from homosexual couples.
The public’s broad sensitivity to the specific rights of religious institutions is quite different from an endorsement of a wholesale right for individuals to discriminate against gays seeking marriage.
Social conservatives especially should take note of where Americans are heading. Because the desire of gays and lesbians to live in publicly committed relationships is seen increasingly as an endorsement of marriage as it has long been understood, there are new opportunities to defend marriage itself.
We need to lay down arms in the culture wars and face up to the urgency of strengthening families.
One person who hopes we will take this path is David Blankenhorn, president of the Institute for American Values. Once a strong foe of same-sex marriage, Blankenhorn has dropped his opposition and urged that we turn our attention instead to a disturbing development: Well-off Americans are far more likely to be in stable marriages than the less affluent. This creates a damaging social cycle — economic inequality is breeding family instability even as family instability is deepening economic inequality.
We could, of course, replace one divisive fight with another and start arguing about whether the problems families face are caused primarily by personal choices or economic challenges. Instead, we should follow the advice of Robert Putnam, a Harvard professor who is deeply alarmed by the expanding American class divide.
Putnam says we should be able to accept the “red truth” that family structure matters and the “blue truth” that declining economic opportunities are, for so many Americans, worsening family difficulties — a point his colleague, William Julius Wilson, has long been stressing. There is a role for personal responsibility and a role for government social policy.
The end of rancor over gay marriage should mark the beginning of an effort to save marriage itself.

E.J. Dionne is a columnist for The Washington Post.

Monday, August 5, 2013

Until Someone Gets Hurt: The Multi-Layered Crime Spree and Murder by a Master Criminal Enterprise

Sherrie Lueder, Tyson Wrensch and their entire literary staff really brought this story to life. The details were precise. The story lines segwayed from one lie to the next. Layers were peeled like onions. These criminals built one con after the other. Some of them overlapped so often that the criminals had to check with each other to keep their lies straight. Tyson, stepped up and helped put an end to this growing criminal enterprise. These guys did so many things wrong, that I had to double check the back of the book to be sure that it was a true story. If you like "dumb" criminal crime stories, this one will top them all. The real kicker is that it's all true. Buy this book!!

http://www.amazon.com/Until-Someone-Gets-Hurt-Multi-Layered/product-reviews/1484819853/ref=cm_cr_dp_see_all_btm?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1&sortBy=bySubmissionDateDescending

Until Someone Gets Hurt: The Multi-Layered Crime Spree and Murder by a Master Criminal Enterprise

Join us for a discussion on Vegas Pride!


The LGBTQ genderbread "person" !!!


2-Year-Old Assaulted in Fla. Walmart for Wearing Pink Headband

A mother shares the horrific story about what happened when her son wore a feminine headband in one of the retail giant’s stores.      

BY Jase Peeples

August 05 2013 7:21 PM ET           


"What Happened When My Son Wore a Pink Headband to Walmart" - via A Mother Thing
 This is Dexter. He is 2 years old. He loves to be Batman and Superman and Spiderman. He's a real boys' boy. He pretends he is flying, and he captures the baddies who threaten us.
He is the sweetest little troublemaker you'll ever meet.
Some other things you might like to know about Dexter:
He is a fabulous big brother. He was a later bloomer vocabulary-wise. He used to be terribly shy but has recently begun to come out of his shell. He loves new people and enjoys greeting them with a big "HI!" when he meets them.
His favorite color is pink. He loves Dora the Explorer. He has been known to wear my skirt as a dress, and he delights in cuddling with his mama.
Last night, I took my two boys out to pick up a couple of things from Walmart. Mark had to catch up on some work, so I ventured out on my own, which is something I don't do very often. It takes a lot of work to get the kids ready, get them in and out of the car, find a shopping cart, keep them happy while I shop and get them home in one piece. You parents will understand this.
After struggling to get him dressed and get his shoes on, I had to pry an overlarge teddy bear out of Dexter's arms, as he was set on taking him with us. This brought on tears and tantrums, which I somehow managed to calm very quickly. But when I attempted to remove my discarded lace flower headband from his head (which he'd been wearing all day), I saw him getting ready to fight, so I left him to it. Who was he hurting?
We got to the store, and amazingly I managed to get him to sit in the shopping cart with no issues. The fact that he was wearing a cute girly headband made him feel good, and he was charming all the old ladies by waving like a little pageant prince. I snapped his photo after two old birds came up to tell me just how adorable he was.
He rocked that headband.
Soon enough, we were done with our shop and were making our way toward the front. As we passed through the produce section, two teenage girls began giggling and one of them asked, "Is that a boy or a girl?" I smiled and said, "He's a boy." I looked on at him adoringly as they continued to giggle.
Out of nowhere a big booming voice rang out. "THAT'S a BOY?!" The man was overly large with a bushy beard and a camouflage shirt with the arms cut off. He had tattered shorts and lace-up work boots with no laces. I could smell the fug of cigarette smoke surrounding him, and there was a definite pong of beer on him.
"Yes," I said simply, still smiling.
With no notice, the man stepped forward, grabbed the headband off of Dexter's head and threw it to the bottom of our shopping cart. He then cuffed Dexter around the side of his head (not hard, but that is not the point) and said with a big laugh, "You'll thank me later, little man!"
At the same time as I stepped forward, Dexter grabbed his head where the man had smacked him and threw his other hand forward, stomping his foot and shouting, "NO!" I got between my son and this man and said very firmly, "If you touch my son again, I will cut your damn hands off."
The guy snarled at me, looked at Dexter with disgust and said, "Your son is a f*cking fa***t." He then started sauntering out, but not before he threw over his shoulder, "He'll get shot for it one day."
I stood there, shaking, fists clenched, waiting for the man to disappear out the door, and then I fell apart. I was shaking so hard, holding back tears and comforting Dexter.
Not a single person said or did anything. There were several people who had witnessed the encounter, but not one of them came over to offer support or console me or my son.
Let me repeat to you: Dexter is 2 YEARS OLD.
I was there with a 2-year-old and a 5-month-old baby, and my kid had been verbally and physically assaulted by a man. And no one did a thing.
I made my way to the front, still in shock, and I paid for my items and left. I did not report it to the management nor to the authorities, though I am considering doing both. But as I live in a tourist area, I doubt there is anything I can do to find the man -- he could be anyone from anywhere.
It's been almost 24 hours, and I've vented on Facebook and had many supportive comments. I have calmed down. I am able to look at the situation with as much objectivity as I am capable of.
There is so much wrong with what happened that I don't even know where to begin.
This man removed an article of clothing that my son was wearing. It doesn't matter that it was a headband. It is never OK.
This man forcefully touched my child without permission. He thought he was being funny. I did NOT think he was.
He called my son an extremely derogatory word AND suggested that he deserved to die.
How is ANY of this okay?!
THIS is what bigotry looks like.
A grown man who should know better decided it was OK to step in and "teach" my child what it is to be manly. He thought it was OK to judge my child because he was not adhering to HIS idea of what a little boy should be. Clearly, the man was a homophobe, which is bad enough -- but to attribute gay tendencies to a 2-year-old is as RIDICULOUS as attributing STRAIGHT tendencies to a 2-year-old. It just doesn't compute!
A 2-year-old HAS no sexuality.
To think you can "teach" a child to be a certain way is unbelievable. Even if being gay is a lifestyle choice (which I don't believe for a second), it is not a choice that a toddler can ever make. And much like little girls can play baseball or enjoy monster trucks, little boys can and do play dress up with mommy's clothes, accessories, makeup, etc. Everything is new and exciting to a kid, and they learn by trying new things.
Mark and I are both completely supportive of love in all forms. Be you gay, straight, bisexual, transsexual or polygamous, it is YOUR business. I don't judge, and I don't try and change you.
And if one or both of my kids grow up to realize they are any of these things, it will not change a thing about how I feel toward them.
But right now, the fact that homophobia is so rampant, that gay marriage is still seen as dirty because homosexuals are "lesser" somehow and don't deserve to have the same rights as straight folk, that people like that man in Walmart even EXIST makes me fear for my kids and their futures.
While we may accept and support whoever our kids turn out to be, I am scared beyond words at what it would mean for them if they ARE gay. Why should anyone have to live in fear because they fall in love with someone that you or someone else doesn't agree with? Why should mothers and fathers of gay kids have to have an extra layer of terror at night because they know that the world at large is against their child?
Why does it matter? Do you really think your God or your Jesus or your deity of choice would be as judgemental as you seem to be? Even the POPE has come out and said it's OK to be gay.
But all of this aside, whatever stance you take on the debate, it is a complete farce to ever allow your fear or disgust with an ADULT lifestyle color your view of a child!
And it is NEVER EVER OK to touch a kid who isn't yours without permission. ALL people, even children, deserve respect. 

This was gleaned from the following website:

 http://www.advocate.com/society/people/2013/08/05/2-year-old-assaulted-fla-walmart-wearing-pink-headband?page=0,1

Monday, July 22, 2013

Federal Judge Orders Ohio to Recognize Gay Couple's Marriage

This article was gleaned from the following link;

http://www.advocate.com/politics/marriage-equality/2013/07/22/federal-judge-orders-ohio-recognize-gay-couples-marriage


James Obergefell and John Arthur will be listed as married on Arthur's death certificate, and can be buried beside one another when Arthur succumbs to ALS.

BY Sunnivie Brydum

July 22 2013 7:32 PM ET

          

A federal judge ordered Ohio state officials Monday to recognize a gay couple's marriage performed in Maryland last week, clearing the way for the men to be listed as married on the terminally ill husband's death certificate, according to Chris Geidner at BuzzFeed
"The end result here and now is that the local Ohio Registrar of death certificates is hereby ORDERED not to accept for recording a death certificate for John Arthur that does not record Mr. Arthur’s status at death as 'married' and James Obergefell as his ‘surviving spouse,'" wrote U.S. District Magistrate Timothy Black Monday, according to the ruling published at BuzzFeed
Arthur and Obergefell have been together for more than 20 years, and on July 11, the Cincinnati-based couple took a specially equipped medical jet to marry on the tarmac of Baltimore-Washington International Airport. Ohio still bans same-sex marriage, but the couple couldn't wait for the law to change, because Arthur suffers from advanced amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, a fatal neurological disease. Arthur was diagnosed with ALS 26 months ago, and is "certain to die soon," according to the judge's ruling declaring the couple legally wed. 
The couple filed suit against Ohio Gov. John Kasich in his official capacity Friday, also naming Ohio attorney general Mike Dewine and the Cincinnati doctor responsible for approving death certificates as defendants, according to the Cincinnati Enquirer. The judge's ruling will allow the couple to be buried alongside one another on Arthur's family plot, since Arthur's grandfather legally stipulated that only immediate family and their spouses can be buried on the family plot at Spring Grove Cemetery. 
"We've been beside each other for 20 years," Obergefell testified in court today, according to the Enquirer. "We deserve to be beside each other in perpetuity."
"This is not a complicated case," wrote Black in his decision. "…Ohio law has historically and unambiguously provided that the validity of the marriage is determined by whether it complies with the law of the jurisdiction where it was celebrated."
Black's ruling Monday also indicated that Ohio's ban on marriage equality, approved by voters in 2004, "likely violate[s] the U.S. Constitution… by treating lawful same-sex marriages differently than it treats lawful opposite sex marriages." However, Black's ruling made clear that his decision applies only to Obergefell and Arthur, and not all Ohio couples legally married in states that embrace marriage equality.

Polyamory

Poly isn't for everyone. I was in a poly relationship for 5 years. We lived as a poly fidelous triad. One of the most important rules to live by is absolute communications. This means that everyone involved in this relationship needs to communicate with all of the other partners. Secrets within the relationship is a poison pill. Second rule, live your poly, not someone else's version of it. You will find a plethora of people quick to point out that your relationship is not "true" poly because you don't do this or that. Live your chosen dynamic as you see fit. Third rule, see the first rule, communications. The one item that fosters jealousy among partners is the unknown, the secrets, the deceptions and the lies. These will quickly bring your relationship to a crumbling halt. Don't use poly as an excuse to cheat. Any new partners added to the family should be introduced to the other partners prior to commencing a relationship with that person. Don't use poly to foster swinging. Contrary to what you may have read, poly is not soft swinging. And finally, poly is not poly. Polyamory is not polygamy. While it may sound similar, they are different in many ways. Polygamy is where one lives as married to more than one spouse. Polyamory is loving more than one. Generally (not always) poly folks don't live as married to more than one spouse, but committed to more than one loving, consenting adults. I've researched alternate lifestyles for many years. I've experienced alternate lifestyles for over 37 years. I am not an expert, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night.

Monday, June 10, 2013

Local Photographer Tearing Down Stereotypes

                                                  
Local Southern Nevada photographer, Linda Quackenboss is attempting to tear down LGBT stereotypes by showing that they are no different than anyone else. She does this by doing photo shoots of LGBT people in a comfortable setting in her studio or on a location of their choice. She is showing some of her work at the Gay & Lesbian Center of Southern Nevada. Her work will be shown at the Center until June 16th. She will have a meet & greet session at the Center on June 12th from 6 pm to 8 pm. If you are in the Las Vegas area, stop in and say hi to Linda. Tell her Bisexual News and Views sent you.
 
Here is the concept in Linda's words:
 
Laughter In The Lens and other locations in Las Vegas area
 
 
I'm working on a personal project photographing individuals, couples, families and groups in the LGBTQ community in Las Vegas. My goal is to show everyone how typical the LGBTQ community is alongside the straight community. I want to photograph you in my studio or on location just enjoying life. Does that mean having a barbeque at your home? Is it frisbee with your dog? Is it a stroll or a bike ride in a park? Is it chilling in my studio and giggling at my silly jokes?

Here's the deal: you let me photograph you (or your friends!) with your/their partner, family or just you yourself, include your pet if you like, you choose your favorite pose and I'll give you an 11x14 mounted print of your favorite. If you want additional prints, I'll have very special pricing for participating in this project.  

Then when I have about 125 portraits with short bio info on you as well, I'll be creating a book! I'll inviting the media, all of you who participated and anyone else who wants to see for themselves that life is a participation sport for everyone!

The initial showing for this project is going to be at The Center, June 6-16 as part of Artrageous by Yelp. Time is of the essence. You need to jump on board quickly as this project needs to be soon so we can produce and go to print with the book for holiday season this year! So, questions? comments? Ready to participate? Great!!!

Call me at 702-575-1150 to set up a time for your exclusive session. You may also message me here.
 
 
 

A Forum Response

The following thread was taken from a forum I belong to. It is in response to "My Take on Bisexuality" that can be found on this blog.

Forum member:

Thanks.
The entire aspect of stereotypes for bisexuals is a hornets nest imo. Not all bisexuals live in a cross orientation relationship and are as happy doing so. Some of us really are promiscuous and proud to be so. Some of us do not agree with you that non monogamy as far as gender is a choice for some bisexuals. There is more in your OP that is pure subjectivity. Remember that please when you are educating. Other than that aspect I like your black box comment and agree.

BNAV:

We are speaking to the identity of bisexuality in an attempt to build a community within the LGBTQ. We want to put the "B" in LGBTQ. By opening the invitations to all, we are hoping to engage others to have a dialog with us. We hope these dialogs will show those who doubt our existence that we really do exist and function just like they do. We also seek to break the stereotypical views that others may have.

Forum member:

To demonstrate my support of bisexual activism I offer the following for your edification.
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Here is an article from February, 2013 about the lack of bisexual inclusiveness in GLBTQ organizations. I'm happy for the OP organization offering space but I wonder how the organization would do on the survey below.

This shows the need for removing bisexuals from these groups and demanding funding for the majority in the non hetero world ..that is bisexuals.
Or as this report shows, demanding inclusiveness

“Given the overwhelming evidence in the past few years showing that bisexual persons exist in greater numbers than the combined gay male, lesbian and transgender populations, we must ask whether some of the national queer organizations are themselves paying attention to the particular needs of bisexual folks, not merely as lip service, not just as an afterthought, but in any sort of tangible way.”
The questionnaire:

  1. Does the organization have full-time personnel solely dedicated to the advancement of bisexual issues or advocacy for bisexual clients and/or members?
  2. How does the organization provide services for or market to bisexual persons?
  3. Does the organization have out bisexual persons on its board of directors, executive board or foundation board?
  4. Are bisexuals specifically mentioned in the organization's mission statement?
  5. Does the organization recruit bisexuals among its members?
  6. Does the organization include bisexual persons on its staff and among its volunteers?
  7. Does the organization educate its staff and volunteers on bisexuality and biphobia?
  8. Does the organization's website have the word "bisexual" or "bisexuality" listed among its topics or tabs (not just including the letter "B" in the acronym)?

“According to the responses, it appears that there is nobody devoted specifically to bisexual issues or bisexual advocacy in these groups.”
“Any national LGBTQ organization that does not specifically commit itself to bisexual inclusion should know it is targeting less than half of the LGBTQ population. “- Lauren Beach, former BOP chairperson
"
With several of the major LGBT organizations not even taking the time to respond to this questionnaire, it's evident that the concerns of the largest segment of the LGBT population, bisexuals, are being neglected and ignored." Ellyn Ruthstrom, president of the Bisexual Resource Center of Boston


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ron-su...b_2748342.html

BNAV:

I appreciate your well thought out responses. Some of the points you make are well founded. I agree with several. The questionnaire you posted, while extremely narrow in its focus, does have some merit. In my opinion a national LGBT organization should have all the elements of its acronym built into its mission statement with a corresponding support structure within the organization. Those organizations that choose to incorporate the all-encompassing “LGBT” or “LGBTQ” acronyms should indeed have the personnel on staff dedicated to the advocacy of that group. One of the reasons I chose to meet at the Gay & Lesbian Center of Southern Nevada is to give the “B” in their “LGBTQ Center” a bisexual voice. As for the promiscuity factor I say to each their own. I personally do not agree with promiscuity in any community including the bisexuals. I feel that what we write, discuss and act out under the guise of anonymity of the internet tarnishes the communities that exercise this practice.

In Summary:

Even those within our bisexual community doubt our true existence mainly because we are routinely dismissed as confused lesbians or closeted gays looking for a quick "no-strings-attached" sexual liaison. We are routinely dismissed as cheaters, or promiscuous individuals who are not capable of loving  another individual purely on the qualities of that person regardless of their gender stereotypes. I will say that there is a portion of our community who are promiscuous, cheating no-strings-attached individuals who are quite the presence on bisexual oriented websites throughout the internet. I don't believe that these people are the heart and soul of our community. I believe that we need to peel back the seedy partitions that appear in forums and chat rooms and reveal the true identity of the bisexual community. We need to shadow our brothers and sisters in their respective communities under the "LGBTQ" banner and present ourselves as caring families, loving parents, and the good people that we truly are in spite of current perception.

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Winners of 25th Annual Lambda Literary Awards Announced

The following article was gleaned from Bimagazine.org in its entirety:

http://bimagazine.org/index.php/news/winners-of-25th-annual-lambda-literary-awards-announced/

 

Winners of 25th Annual Lambda Literary Awards Announced

Written by Staff Writer June 04, 2013 at 11:46 AM
The winners of the 25th Annual Lambda Literary Awards were announced on Monday night, June 3rd 2013 in a sold-out gala ceremony hosted by comedienne Kate Clinton with special guest performer Janice Ian at the Great Hall at Cooper Union in New York City. The ceremony was followed by a VIP After Party at the The Sky Room at the New Museum.  The event brought together almost 500 attendees, sponsors, and celebrities to celebrate excellence in LGBT literature and 25 years of the groundbreaking literary awards. “I’ve never been more proud of our community of writers.” said Tony Valenzuela, Lambda Literary Foundation Executive Director.  “I can’t wait to see what the next 25 years brings.”
Nina Hartley announces the winners of the Bisexual Category at the 25th Annual Lambda Literary AwardsThe Bisexual category was announced by feminist sex educator and adult film actress Nina Hartley. This year there was a tie with both "In One Person" by John Irving and "My Awesome Place: The Autobiography of Cheryl B" the posthumous memoirs of avant-garde performance artist Cheryl Burke taking pride of place in a small but extremely competitive list.

Accepting for the late Ms. Burke was her partner, Kelli Dunham who delivered a heatfelt and heartbreaking thank you saying "Every day when Cheryl was her sickest, I prayed to a god I no longer believe in for a miracle. Perhaps this book is the miracle" saying about the book, "knowing that there is an artsy freak teenager trying to escape New Jersey, a women somewhere struggling with sobriety, and a smarty pants bisexual girl living on Staten Island, all who think they are alone, and who will read My Awesome Place and know that they are not."
This year’s trio of major LLF award recipients included John Irving who received Lambda Literary Foundation's (LLF) Bridge Builder Award presented to him by his good friend and fellow author Edmund White.  Also Augusten Burroughs recieved the Board of Trustees Award for Excellence in Literature presented by New York Times columnist and author Frank Bruni and Cherrie Moraga, Chicana writer, feminist, activist, poet, essayist, and playwright, accepted Lambda Literary’s Pioneer Award. The Dr. James Duggins Mid-Career Novelist Prizes went to Nicola Griffith and Trebor Healey. The Dr. Betty Berzon Emerging Writer Awards went to Sassafras Lowrey and Carter Sickels.
Lending it's support as a Patron of this important event was the American Institute of Bisexuality (AIB). AIB is an American charitable foundation originally endowed by pioneering bisexual rights activist, author and therapist the late Dr. Fritz Klein to encourage, support and assists research and education about bisexuality, through programs likely to make a material difference and enhance public knowledge, awareness and understanding about bisexuality.  Recently LLF further signaled it's long-terms comitment to fully supporting Bisexual Literature when it named AIB Board-member and current Vice-president Denise Penn, MSW to the LLF Board of Trustees.
In addition to Ms. Penn also in attendance representing the American Institute of Bisexuality (AIB) were: bisexual activist Estraven, from the New York Area Bisexual Network (NYABN); bisexual author and editor Dr. Aih Djehuti Herukhuti; Lammy award-winning author Author Barbara Browning; author Astrid Fiano; film-maker, author & popular Bi Magazine Media Critic Anil Vora; as well as the Brooklyn based photographer and author Efrain John Gonzalez. Also attending were several well know bisexual writers and publishers including Ron Suresha and Cecilia Tan.

We do exist!

We are speaking to the identity of bisexuality in an attempt to build a community within the LGBTQ. We want to put the "B" in LGBTQ. By opening the invitations to all, we are hoping to engage others to have a dialog with us. We hope these dialogs will show those who doubt our existence that we really do exist and function just like they do. We also seek to break the stereotypical views that others may have. We are the Southern Nevada Bisexuals. Please take a moment to check out the Meetup site and Facebook page.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Southern-Nevada-Bisexuals/202333853249337

http://www.meetup.com/Southern-Nevada-Bisexuals/


 
 

My intro

Hiya folks,

Here's my take on Bisexuality...
A bisexual identity speaks to the potential, not the requirement, for involvement with more than one gender/sex. This involvement may mean sexually, emotionally, in reality, or in fantasy. Monogamy and non-monogamy are relationship choices made independently of sexual identity. Some bisexuals are monogamous, some may have concurrent partners, others may relate to different genders/sexes during different times of their lives. Most bisexuals do not have to be involved with more than one person at a time in order to feel fulfilled. We see the person not the gender.

My take on Polyamory borrowed From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:

Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning "many" or "several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from both swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and polysexuality (which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes).

Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy." The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.


With that said...

We arrived in Las Vegas a few years ago. We moved from Phoenix, Arizona. We are settled in. The job is going well. We are having trouble finding like minded folks who live near us.

Allow me introduce the family;

My wife +Laura Benedict brings a level of intellect, love, and structure to my life. She loves math, going to college, learning new things, riding her Harley, and shooting (she has a concealed carry permit). She is also a wonderful wife/partner, mother, lover (yes she is bisexual), and a great friend.

I enjoy NASCAR, photography, shooting (yes, I have a concealed carry permit as well), writing, traveling, and storm chasing. I will be attending a university next fall to pursue a masters in Earth science. I am a bisexual male and proud of it.

We do consider our family as Poly friendly.

So if you're from the Las Vegas valley, drop us a note and maybe we can do coffee. Join our meet-up group.

http://www.meetup.com/Southern-Nevada-Bisexuals/


https://www.facebook.com/pages/Southern-Nevada-Bisexuals/202333853249337?hc_location=stream





Thanks
John & Laura